Cheating! Cheating! Cheating!
This has to be one of the most “gisted” topic amongst lots of squad. I can say for sure my squad and I have, in fact topics like this would take long hours for us to dissect, digest, decode and what have you.
I was watching a movie with my mum the other day which of course centered around cheating. And we both had different opinions about the issue. Hence this post.
Before I go straight into the main focus of this post, let me give you a quick breakdown of the movie.
So, a couple was having marital issue because the husband was always busy and never gave the wife attention. She met some guy (Mawuli Gavor, hella hot) at a restaurant she was supposedly going to have lunch with her husband, who stood her up, mad yeah? She hooked up with the guy and they took it to “the other room” level. The sad thing that now happens in every movie is that after one partner slips up, immediately the other one starts being all nice and good, like whyyy? Apparently, the husband found out and he filed for a divorce.
If you ask me, a divorce wasn’t necessary. And that’s where the conflicting opinions began. My mum’s premise was that the moment you lay chest to chest with someone else, your marriage is more or less nullified. I hear this, in fact I deep this, but I don’t totally agree.
Being cheated on is one of the most heart aching things to experience. To digress a little, I have had this conversation with a friend and he thinks girls have a fairer chance of dealing with heartache compared to guys because our boobs helps absorb some of it (I don’t know what planet he’s from).
My standpoint for not totally agreeing is this, LOVE (I’m sure someone is already raising their brows, chill b). Okay, I feel like before anyone agrees to getting married to their partner, I mean, giving your forever to this certain person you must be in genuine love with them. And genuine love with this individual means, your love is SACRIFICIAL, UNCONDITIONAL, FORGIVING, and most importantly GOD’S LOVE. I don’t know how anyone will get married without feeling this way about their partner to be honest.
So now cheating has occurred, and he/she has come out to be honest about it or you find out any way, does it mean that your marriage is over? It is understandable that you feel like your partner has betrayed you and has figuratively dragged your union to indignity, you are emotionally hurt and broken, but then this when genuine love acts out. It might seem as though I’m bringing that same old patience and endurance advice in marriages but truth be told these are some of the components of love in itself. From the exposures I have gained, marriage isn’t fun and games, life comes through with different emotional tantrums and it takes two committed individuals to work their way through shitty situations, you can’t always call a red flag when things turn left. Like I have heard, in relationships, it is two against whatever situation and not two against each other.
HOWEVER!!!!!! There is always an exception to every rule. If someone’s partner is going about cheating and doesn’t have any ounce of respect for their partner and they have it all up in your face, then that’s an unhealthy relationship.
Cheating is a very distasteful act and if you truly do love your partner, you shouldn’t let them go through that kind of hurt. And I hope we find someone we love and loves us as much.
How do you think cheating should be handled?
And yeah, thank you guys so much for the birthday wishes I was really overwhelmed. Y’all don’t know how much you mean to me. Ugh! my chest