THE BLOG POST YOU ARE ABOUT TO READ IS A VERY ANGRY CONTENT. IF YOU ARE HAVING A FLOURISHING DAY‚ YOU CAN CHECK BACK WHEN YOU ARE ALSO ANGRY. BECAUSE A TIGER’S TESTICLES CANNOT BE GIVEN!
These couple of weeks has been a hard pill to swallow‚ too many events happened at once‚ I was getting better or so I thought until the past few days. I have felt a number of things‚ from sadness to anger to fright. Some days it was all at once.
I did not plan to bring it up here but I got angrier. I had to speak up!
I would start by asking
WHY IS THE WORLD SO CRUEL TO THE FEMALES?
WHY DO WE FEMALES HAVE TO CONSTANTLY LIVE IN FEAR?
WHY ARE WE FEMALES ALWAYS THE VICTIMS?
WHAT EXACTLY DID WE DO WRONG?
My heart gets so heavy and wrecked when I hear molestation and rape stories. It feels like a shot-put ball was dropped on my chest (that’s how hurtful I feel typing this right now). A four year old GIRL got raped by a 30+ year old MAN‚ and; I just want to scream! An innocent TODDLER got her internals damaged because of the sexual urges of an animal. DAMN THE BEGINNING OF THE DAY THERE WAS SEXUAL URGE. I still have a hard time getting the dreadful pictures off my head.
Someone asked me one time‚ what I was most fearful of and my answer was “getting raped”. You see‚ right at this moment‚ if you asked me‚ my answer would be “my children getting molested”. The crazy thing is that I actually cannot fathom an imagination about it happening because I do not have the mental capacity to comprehend it.
As females‚ we are constantly conscious of the littlest things‚ consistently living in fear. I would not allow an automatic car lock unless I can be sure to be comfortable around you‚ I had also heard once from another female that she always does a mental calculation of the number of guys in the same space as she; another one said “I mentally check for things I can use as a weapon”‚ a different lady says “there’s always blade in my bag anytime I go out infact I plan on getting pocket knife sef”
We are so unconsciously conscious of our environment. Being a female is steadily TIRING
Sadly‚ an increasing number of females have had to go through sexual oppression‚ and every other day EVERY female gets harassed by these beasts in men’s form. Two days ago I had a similar conversation with a set of people‚ and we spoke on men trying to take advantage of a “disadvantaged” female. This man specifically said‚ “I mostly carry ladies in my car when it’s raining because of course they want to leave the rain asap‚ before she gets down from the car I would ask for her number; 8 out of 10 girls we end up having a connection”. I went ahead and asked him “why must you collect her number‚ why can’t you just help them and not ask for anything in return” and to my surprise‚ he said “did she buy the fuel in my car?” Till this minute he still does not find anything wrong in that statement.
Do you know what I think? I think we live in a messed up world. These MEN need to bloody fix up with all of these mediocre- egocentric -entitlement bullocks they have up in their head. I know right now you are probably saying “but not all men are the same” oh well news flash every day there is always that man putting y’all 40 steps backward to having that argument. So you can as well just suck it!
The most disdainful of all the disdains are the female rape apologists roaming about the surface of the earth. Imagine being assured to be safe and be supported by your fellow gender type‚ yet they are the ones ripping you apart making insensitive comments such as “who have they not raped before?” (I’m still in shock of this one) “Why is she just talking’’. Oh well‚ she’s only just talking because of your rape apologetic ass‚ she’s talking now because she’s healed and has the courage to shake off the shame‚ ridicule and stigma. She’s talking now because she is tired of living in silence. She’s talking now because she has found her voice that has now and would become the strength for every other hurtful female. Because now‚ ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.
I think this is a call to action for every parent. I think it begins in the family unit. We need to constantly be vigilante‚ educate‚ believe and be on the side of these children (boy or girl). They need to understand that they can be comfortable talking to you. I think we should also let them understand that nobody should be placed in the highest esteem that when they make them feel uncomfortable they can’t speak up.
My heart goes out to every rape victim out there‚ I could never imagine how emotionally draining and heartbreaking it feels and I really do pray that you have the strength to heal.
IF THERE WAS A PUNISHMENT DESERVING OF A RAPIST WHAT DO YOU THINK IT SHOULD BE?