If as a lady and you have not gotten schooled on what and what not to do in your “husband’s house” then you don’t know what God has done for you.
But then again, there are always excerpts of it on the internet, “a wife should do this, a wife should do that” those kinds of statements that just always polish the men’s ego (but that’s a topic for another day). Today is for our mothers and their “ile oko” schooling. WE ARE TIRED!
If I had a naira for every time I get the “ile oko” statement, I should be driving my Benz already. it always seems like we are in a phase of learning, upon marriage as a graduation ceremony. I mean I am aware that our parents are just instilling some disciplines that would help us manage our homes no doubt about that, but trust African parents to go EXTREME. My mother is an ambassador (if I get into trouble, Y’all are going down with me)
My Ile Oko lessons amongst many others
- Why wouldn’t you put locust beans in your ewedu, don’t go basic with your food
- Cut your yam in different shapes, don’t go to your husband’s house to be cutting round shapes of yam
- Learn how to make every swallow food possible because apparently that’s every man’s favorite food but it doesn’t end there, there is a particular way you hold the turning stick that makes it “ile oko” worthy
- When you are in the car with your husband you don’t just sit there you help him check his sides and the back
LMAO, I told you it’s not a joking sturv. Like can we actually LIVE
First of all, I pray to God to marry MY MAN (not someone else’s own). Someone who does not live in the ‘80s and have an archaic mentality. Someone that understands that this thing called marriage is a teamwork and learns to accept whatever it is I put on the table. If your yams are cut in rectangular, hexagon whatever shape, my nigga you would dig in however. If I cannot make you a swallow (I’m a badass in Amala though) eat that Indomie with love.
Marriage isn’t some sort of institution we need to pass in flying colors, in my opinion, it is a journey for two individuals, one where the individuals experience growth hand in hand. This “ile oko” mentality doesn’t even put us on our toes for the most part of it I would say it just gets on our nerves and cringes us (speaking for 80% of the females). We know to treat our men right but we are TIRED of listening to every detail of it.
Do the men even get lectured on “Ile iyawo”, how to act in their matrimonial home? I would really love to know if there is one
For the ladies, what other ridiculous “ile oko” lessons have you been told or heard of?
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